Walking around grey

I have been asked what it is like living with grey hair. I am not really sure what to say. I do not have workplace issues; all my freelance work has come through word of mouth or been completely anonymous through the internet.  When I am out and about I am almost always wearing a hat, so you would have to look closely to notice my hair. My women friends are all wildly in favor but I have not noticed a dramatic rise in the number of grey heads among them.

Vince top: second hand, Cassidi shorts: thrifted, Daniella Lehavi shoes, Columbia Sportswear hat
Vince top: second hand, Cassidi shorts: thrifted, Daniella Lehavi shoes, Columbia Sportswear hat

I am very shy around strangers and street contact makes me squirm. People look at each other – normal behavior but there were no instructions on what to do with this attention and how to respond. So long ago I learned put the world in soft focus. Sometimes I sense when someone is looking at me without actually making eye contact and am often told by friends and family that they saw me in the street but I didn’t see them. So I am not sure if my grey hair has made me more invisible to strangers but if it has, I would consider that a bonus.

Blue top: thrifted, Ayelet Wiezman skirt: thrifted, bag: Cromia thrifted, Shoes: CoupleOf
Blue top: thrifted, Avivit Weizman skirt: thrifted, bag: Cromia thrifted, Shoes: CoupleOf

The hardest for me has been glimpsing at myself in a store mirror or window. Who is that grey haired women? My hair does not look black with white highlights – it looks grey.  I have learned not to take my reflection too seriously. File that under the wisdom of the middle age.

Linking to Visible Monday at Not Dead Yet Style. I love the internet for allowing me to decide how visible I will be. Thank you Patti!

16 Comments

  1. jangrahammcmillen

    You have such a youthful face and figure, and your hair is “merry” and charming, so I think your hair works beautifully. Very cute choices to combine, both looks … I’m a sucker for stripes!

  2. ladywone

    I think that you wear your natural hair well. It looks healthy and the cut compliments your face and adds edge to your outfits. Sometimes when we look at ourselves we don’t see the natural beauty that is in us.
    When you wrote: “I am very shy around strangers and street contact makes me squirm. People look at each other – normal behavior but there were no instructions on what to do with this attention and how to respond. So long ago I learned put the world in soft focus.”

    This resonates with me so strongly. I have to force myself to come out of my shell it can be difficult very often because I am so uncomfortable.

    1. Jaime

      Ladywone it means so much to me that that sentiment resonated with you. I think you have to have felt it to know what I mean as I did not explain it very much. Have you read Quiet by Susan Cain? I felt very validated after reading it. Thank you for your comment!

  3. Jen

    I am also going grey, more like white, and I kind of love it. When I see other women doing the same I feel a sense of sisterhood with them, love that!

  4. Serene

    I’m going through the same thing and was committed to NOT coloring my hair. I think that going gray is harder than just being gray….especially on darker hair! I’d be fine to just wake up and have lush white hair!! But this trickling in is so not pretty on me! :(. So I compromised and have been doing a glaze. It washes out slowly over about 6 weeks and gives my hair a wonderful soft texture. It doesn’t completely cover the grays, but it gives them a reddish hue. I’m a little embarrassed to say how much better I like my hair now…vanity will be my downfall!! Ha! I think your curly hair makes the gray softer…..and your face IS very youthful! Once it all comes in gray, what a striking look!! Great post! Serene

    1. Jaime

      The growing in is definitely the worst part Serene – that is why I did the big chop – but I would not want to see you do that to your beautiful long hair. I am not a grey hair pusher, I just think it should be an acceptable option for women of all ages.

      Thanks for the comment about my youthful face, although I have to admit my lack of ability to focus the camera deserves some credit there!

  5. mamavalveeta03

    Lol about the inability to focus! One of my daughters asked me if I had actually taken a photo I had posted on Instagram because she had never seen my post one in focus!
    I think your haircut is perfect t for your style and it’s women that look as good as you that inspire me to let my hair go natural. I’m not quite ready yet, but I’m thinking about it.
    Add me to the “Stripe lovers” club!

    1. Jaime

      Yes, lack of focus is one of the unsung heroes of middle age blogging (at least in my case)! Happy to inspire you mamavalveeta! My thought is that women should do what they want with their hair color – including letting it be! Thanks for your comment!

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